When we are babies in the womb, we start off with plenty of room to grow, but as we get bigger, we become more and more cramped with every passing day. We adapt to this very easily, curling our soft, flexible body up into a tight ball, not knowing that being stretched out is possible. I don’t know if this is comfortable or not to the unborn child, but as we don’t know any different, that is our normal.

When it is time for us to be born, it must feel as though the world is ending. Suddenly, the womb that has ept us safe is exerting massive pressure on us in an effort to help us into the next phase of life. I cannot imagine what birth must feel like to the child, but I imagine it must be pretty traumatic, even if it is an ‘easy’ birth.

I remember my mother telling me that the strange and unsettling dreams that I had as a child, and still have now sometimes, might be birth memories. These dreams always come when I am upset or anxious about something, so if my mother was right, there is a definite connection in my brain between stress and birth memories.

As the child moves down the birth canal into the waiting world, to some extent their world, the one that they have known for the entirety of their existence, is ending. A new phase of life begins, one which is so different to the one experienced so far as to be virtually unrecognisable.

For the majority of babies born in, that new world is one in which they are surrounded with love and care, and the experience of birth and the old life in the womb is quickly forgotten by the conscious mind.

As with birth, there is little that you can do in life to resist the changes and pressures that life throws at you, no matter how hard you try. Change is inevitable, when you roll with it and grow into it, you can only benefit.

Any change in life is hard.

Any time we have to break out of comfort zones, push through the boundaries created around us, step into new ways of being, and leave the old behind, it is scary. Stepping into the unknown triggers the fear demons and they will bring their A game in a desperate bid to stop you risking a fall.

Any time we have to break out of comfort zones, push through the boundaries created around us, step into new ways of being, and leave the old behind, it is scary. Stepping into the unknown triggers the fear demons and they will bring their A game in a desperate bid to stop you risking a fall.

You need to take a leap of faith.  Channel your inner Indiana Jones!

The change may bring turmoil, doubt, confusion and a desperate urge to return to the old, familiar ways, even if you are unhappy and stuck in the old ways.

But as much as you might try to resist, you cannot stay the same. Nothing in nature stays the same. Even someone who ‘never changes’ is actually changing, becoming more entrenched in their old ways, more resistant to change, and less tolerant of new ways of being.

It isn’t always pleasant, it isn’t fun, but if you are feeling the calling to change any aspect of your life, to explore growth and change, then take it from someone who has walked this path. It is TOTALLY worth it.

When I stopped drinking, I changed more than simply my drink of choice in the evening, I changed the way I interacted with everyone I used to spend time with. There are many people whose company I would enjoy in the past who I simply haven’t seen since I was last drunk in their company. Other friendships have changed dramatically. The friendships that meant the most to me are, by and large, still a part of my life – changed forever, but still there, and there are many new friendships that simply wouldn’t have happened for my former self.

I occasionally have pangs of nostalgia (usually connected to music) for my old life. Some aspects of it were pretty hard to leave behind. But when this happens, I feel the emotions I am experiencing (sometimes happy, sometimes sad), feel grateful for the experiences I had, then focus on all the reasons my life is better now.

Just as my 7 year old son wants to stay young and dependent on me in many ways, once he gets increasing feelings of independence and confidence in his abilities to fend for himself, he enjoys the wider range of opportunities that life offers him as he grows. This is the benefit of growth.

The more we grow into the world, the more the world offers to us.

Have you experienced significant changes in your life that you resisted but are now grateful for? I’d love to hear about them, please share your stories in the comments.

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