Women can have it all they tell us!
I sometimes wonder if they meant we can *have* it all, or we can *do* it all?
It can be so easy to get caught up in the seemingly endless demands on us. We are mothers, wives, girlfriends, colleagues, bosses, business owners, mentors, clients and so on. The list of things you have to do can seem never ending sometimes!
When you try to be all things to all people, and do evrything, eventually, you will lose yourself. This can result in stress, overwhelm, resentment, and, if left unchecked, can lead to burnout.
You don’t have to be superwoman. Here are a few tips to help you take care of yourself while still being efficient and effective in your life.
Start your day focusing on your needs
When you have a lot on your mind, it can be very tempting to jump straight into action, letting your to do list take over your mind before you’ve even brushed your teeth! This is not advisable!
How we start our day often echoes throughout the rest of the day.
Starting your day with a routine that tends to your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual needs may feel like a luxury when you have a list of tasks a mile long, but you will be far more productive and effective at dealing with the list if you ensure that your needs are met first.
Develop a morning routine that works for you, that tends to all aspects of your well-being, that leaves you feeling balanced, focused and emergised ready for the day ahead.
Your morning routine could include:-
- Reading a book with a cup of coffee
- Sitting in the garden and listening to the birds sing
- Going to the gym/for a swim/taking the dog for a walk
- Spending time entirely focused on enjoying breakfast with your family
- Listening to podcasts
- Anything that fills you up and makes you happy!
Finding a morning routine that works and makes you happy could be the difference between a joyful day and a day of drudgery.
Leave the internet out of the bedroom
Hands up if you take at least one device to bed with you at night? *Raises ✋*
Now raise the other hand if you have at least 3 reasons why this is absolutely necessary? *Raises other ✋*
Now, raise one leg if you find that the first thing you do when you wake up is check Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, email, the news, bank account…all of the above….before you’ve even opened your eyes properly?
Erm…..can I borrow your legs as well?
Yes, I too am guilty of this, but am making more effort to leave my gadgets downstairs at night. When I do, I sleep better, find it much easier to get up, hit the snooze button far less, and get straight to my yoga mat instead of getting distracted by the lure of the internet.
There have been times when something I have read on the news site has adversely affected my mental state before I have had a chance to reinforce my resilience through yoga. It’s not a good way to start the day!
Take regular breaks
Did you have a break today? How many cups of tea have got cold by your side, forgotten completely as you plough on through the day? Did you remember to have lunch?
Being in the flow with work is great, but you do have to give your body and mind a chance to take a break as well.
The pomodoro method is a great way to balance effective working time with essential break time. This method involves working in 25 minute bursts, with 5 minute breaks in between. If you make sure you get up and move your body during these breaks, you will keep your body in better health as well. Find out more about the Pomodoro method here.
Take breath breaks
Good breathing is vital to mental, physical and emotional well-being.
During your Pomodoro breaks, you could spend the time taking health enhancing breaths, sitting with your eyes closed focusing on your breath to quieten your mind, or spending the time practicing breath improving exercises. If you were to do this during three of your Pomodoro breaks, you would see a marked improvement in your well-being in a very short space of time.
Move your body in a way that makes you feel good
I love to dance, walk, cycle and of course, practice yoga Asanas. All these make me feel good, help me to let go of tension, and improve my mood. If I get stuck in work, or feel stress in another area of my life, any of these activities will always make me feel better.
Exercise of any sort increases endorphins and makes us feel better. There is an increasing body of research into the specific benefits of walking and yoga, and few people would deny that a good dance to music they love is a great mood booster!
What is your preferred way to move your body?
Respect your time and your priorities
This is crucial! If you don’t respect your time and priorities, no one else will.
How do you want to be treated and seen by others? If you want other people to respect you, you have to show them that you respect yourself,and “train” them to respect you.
Set boundaries for what you will allow from clients, colleagues, friends, family members and stick to them in an assertive, positive way. A wise woman once told me “No is a complete sentence, you don’t need to explain”. You don’t have to be rude, but if someoneoversteps your boundaries, politely let them know, and show them where the boundary is. It is better to say no than to say yes and be filled with resentment, or run yourself into the ground trying to please everyone.
There are many others ways that you can bring peace and calm into your working day. What are your go to strategies for finding peace in your day? Share in the comments below!
If you want more help with bringing your life into balance, let’s talk about how I can help! Book a free connection call with me and we can look at where you can make changes in your life!