I send out a ‘Monday Motivation‘ email to my subscribers on Mondays. I don’t always share them here, but this one feels right to share
Today’s Monday Motivation has been inspired, as many future emails are likely to be, by an incredible book I am currently reading.
It is called ‘Option B‘, and it is written by Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer of Facebook. It is written about her experience of grief and recovery from the emotional devastation caused in her life with the sudden death of her husband.
I started reading the book on Wednesday, and don’t think I have read a single sentence without tears rolling down my face. Sandberg’s evocation of her grief is so powerful, you really do feel her pain.
Through her pain, Sheryl Sandberg grows, and it is this growth that is the point of the book. It is a masterclass in overcoming trauma and tragedy and developing resilience.
There is much I will write about the lessons of the book in time, but I wanted to share this today. In a book of powerful moments, this line has been echoing in my mind since I read it.
These words are so tremendously powerful and comforting.
Whatever we experience in life changes us in some way. Often, when we look back at difficult experiences in life, we can see the growth we have experienced as a result of that hardship. We can see the good things that have come as a direct result of that pain. We can experience gratitude, maybe not for the painful experience itself, but for the person we became as a result.
We grow into the recovery we need. This is resilience building. As we get through each new experience, we learn that we can survive, that we can move on, that we can grow.
When we are in the midst of pain and suffering, it can be impossible to see this, but when we look back, and see how far we have come, we can see the growth and the development of resilience.
This growth comes through surrendering to the pain and embracing the emotions we feel. It is not easy to experience painful emotions, but when we do, when we can sit with them, truly feel them, and work through them, we can move through and beyond them.
It is better to experience the emotion and let it pass, than to try to bury it and carry it around deep inside for a lifetime.
There are many ways we can be with, and process emotions. Writing, crying, talking, any form of creative expression, sitting quietly and being with the breath are all powerful ways to be in the moment and experience whatever you are experiencing. Reading someone else’s words can be a powerful way to process your own emotions, I cannot recommend Sandberg’s book highly enough if you are in need of a cathartic, inspirational read!
Take deep breaths whenever painful emotions arise, and process them in the way that suits you best. But remember that all things must pass, and allow the person you become to catch you.
With love and light